Nathaniel
Shockey
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April 29, 2009
Someone Control These
Damn Kids!
Maybe it’s because I have a baby on the way and it’s suddenly dawned on
me that I will never, ever, allow our child to make a ruckus in any
public place, much less a crowded one. The thought of watching my child
make carpet angels in the middle of an aisle where servers, some of them
with rather heavy footsteps, walk rapidly and even clumsily would
certainly be enough to give me concern about my child’s health. When
it’s someone else’s child, I’m more concerned about the server’s health.
I figure that at this point the child has it coming.
In
a culture that features parents who interject in nearly every aspect of
their children’s lives, whether it be what they’re being taught in
school, that their children get solos in musical ensembles (regardless
of talent), that they are never picked last in gym class or that
teachers schedule the date of any given event around their child’s
availability – it is somewhat surprising that these same parents would
allow their children to be road kill in a crowded restaurant. It seems
as though, once they leave their houses, they no longer hold themselves
responsible for their child, that somehow everyone around them has
automatically become a babysitter. I wonder if it is an unplanned
collateral consequence of the ridiculous “pedestrians right of way”
rule. We imagine that if we make a law that cars are never allowed to
hit people on foot that somehow pedestrians will no longer be vulnerable
to two-ton hunks of metal moving at speeds in excess of 20 miles per
hour. And similarly, as long as we always the blame the restaurant
employee for running into a child no taller than his knees, children
become magically invincible.
Allow me to introduce the concept that no manmade laws supersede those
of physics.
Perhaps the deplorable behavior of children in restaurants is a
consequence of the increasingly accepted idea that people are inherently
good. We’re at our best as children. Then we grow up and become screwed
up adults with emotional baggage. Parents can’t imagine that their
little Tommy is disturbing the people at the table three feet away by
adorably screaming and hurling macaroni in the air. Children are pure
and innocent and good and whatever they do is something to which the
rest of us ought to aspire. My little Tommy is an angel. In fact, there
he is right now, making carpet angels in the aisle. Aren’t children
precious?
No, ma’am. Yours isn’t. You ought to try spanking the evil out of him,
perhaps with a wooden spoon. It could save his life from the rapidly
approaching figure that happens to be carrying eight topped-off pint
glasses of beer. We might reconsider the hope we place in our future
when our children are taught that laws of common decency and sensitivity
to those around us don’t apply to them, much like laws of physics.
I
also theorize that this problem stems from our increasing unwillingness
to parent our children and our increasing willingness to be their
playmates. We wouldn’t want our children to dislike us! Who knows what
would happen if they actually concerned themselves with the consequences
of breaking rules we actually enforced? It would be an unfathomable
chaos of fear and rebellion. It’s much better to suggest general
principles as concerned but never strict parents. If they
disregard them, well, they’ll learn eventually.
And additionally, if the children don’t take our ideas seriously,
there’s a good chance the problem stems from the idea, not the child.
Parents might consider that being a good parent requires more than
giving birth and paying for a child’s college education. There’s also
the considerable task of raising the child, which I would suggest
includes monitoring their behavior in restaurants.
In
fact, let me take this opportunity to officially pledge my eternal
gratitude and patronage to any restaurant that kicks out a family whose
children are disturbing those around them. Please contact me if you have
clear evidence and I will be sure to make room for your restaurant on my
schedule.
It
is indeed a mad, mad, mad, mad world. And these are only a few guesses
as to why the kids in the very establishment in which I’m writing won’t
stop running around and their parents won’t stop letting them. I had
intended to write about something else, but at the moment, this matter
seemed considerably more pressing.
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