David J.
Pollay
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November 17, 2008
Ask for Help Without
Dumping
One day my daughters and I were having fun on the play set in our
backyard. Ariela was on the swing, and Eliana was climbing the ladder to
the monkey bars when she stopped and said, “Papi, what’s this?” She held
up her right hand so that I could see it. It was all orange and covered
with speckles of green. I walked over to her, and looked at her hand
more closely. Then I noticed the rungs on the ladder. The paint was
peeling, and the bars were flaking with rust.
I
said, “Eliana, please get down. Honey, that’s rust. I don’t want you to
hurt your hands.” And then I looked up at the monkey bars. Four of the
nine bars had the same issue!
I
felt myself getting angry. I started talking to myself. “I paid a lot
for this swing set and it’s already rusting.”
I
kept on talking. “My girls are four and five, this is dangerous. How
could they sell me equipment like this?”
I
got even angrier. “And in two weeks Ariela has 30 classmates coming to
her birthday party.” I looked at my watch. It was after hours. “Too
bad,” I said. “It can’t wait! I need to call them now. No one messes
with my family.”
So, I marched in and called the company. I got their voicemail. I left a
long message. I covered all the main points: “My swing set is full of
rust. This product is inferior. It’s not safe. How can my daughters play
on it? And I have 30 kids coming to play on the swing set in less than
two weeks . . . and almost 40 parents will be here!” And I closed by
saying, “I expect a call at 9 a.m. when you open!”
I
walked out to rejoin my girls: I thought that I had just taken care of
them. I did what I had to do. The company knew that I meant business.
And then a few minutes later I realized something. In my
fury, I had allowed myself to become someone else’s
Garbage Truck. I came out swinging in my message. I did not give the
company the benefit of the doubt: I declared myself an adversary. I
didn’t consider that the owner and his team might want to help.
My anger blinded me to that possibility.
But my parents taught me something growing up about mistakes. Mom and
Dad would say: “When you’re wrong, admit it. When you’re out of line,
say you’re sorry.” So I went back inside and left another message. I
apologized for my first call. And then I took a different approach. This
time I said: “We like our swing set. We use it a lot. And we’re excited
that Ariela’s friends will play on it during her birthday party. And I
am confident that you will fix everything in time. Call me as soon as
you can tomorrow.”
Sure enough, the owner of the company called me the next day. He was
friendly and direct. He let me know what parts were under warranty. He
then said he would waive the labor on the repairs if I would cover the
rest of the material costs. I agreed. And just in time for the party,
all the fixes were made. I tipped the four guys who did the job, and
then I called the owner. I told him, “You did what you said you would
do. You delivered. And your guys did a great job. Thanks.”
I
was reminded again that my initial issue was not really with “the
company.” It was with fellow human beings. When I assumed the worst and
left my first message, I dumped garbage on them. When I was friendly and
respectful, I made their jobs easier and more enjoyable.
We
all deserve the good service we pay for. But we must remember that
people like us run companies, sell products, and offer customer service:
We should never dehumanize our interaction with them. We should treat
people the way we want to be treated.
We
make the world a better place when we ask for help without dumping
garbage.
David J. Pollay’s book,
Beware of Garbage Trucks!™, is due
out this Fall. Mr. Pollay is the creator of
The Law of the Garbage Truck™
(www.bewareofgarbagetrucks.com). He is a syndicated columnist with the
North Star Writers Group,
creator and host of The
Happiness Answer™ DVD, and an
internationally sought after speaker. Mr. Pollay is the
founder and president of the personal coaching and seminar
organization, The Momentum Project (www.themomentumproject.com).
© 2008
David J. Pollay. Distributed by North Star Writers Group. May not be
republished without permission.
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