David J.

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September 29, 2008

Your Success Mission, Part II! We All Need Help

Last week we talked about how most of us feel some amount of stress when we think about what it will take to achieve our dreams. We think, “How in the world are we going to get from where we are today to where we hope to be?”

The first answer

Here’s the essence of the first answer I shared with you in Part I. Look to the people who have already helped you. Reach out to them. Tell them why they are important to you and how they helped you succeed in the past. Let these people know how valuable they are to you. If you feel that you’ve thanked someone before, consider doing it again in an even more meaningful way. Keep these people in your corner.

The second answer

Now, what’s the second answer? Help other people.

Helping others

Think about who else could help you achieve the success you desire. Now, through a lens of gratitude, consider how you could repay these people in advance for their support. What could you do for them now? How could you help them in some way?

Your commitment to helping them will demonstrate two things: You care about what they care about, and you appreciate the role they could play in your life.

This week

So, let’s think about the people you want to bring into your life. Follow these three steps:

1. Who are the people that could make a difference in your life – the people who could really help you if you could make a connection with them? Write their names down now.

2. Now, here’s the key: Beside each name on your list, write down what you could do for them that would be valuable and helpful. What could you do that would be meaningful?

3. Now, grab your planner and write what you’re going to do for whom and when. Building relationships takes time. Start reaching out to people now. Offer your thoughtful assistance.

Stand out

When you do, you will stand out as a giver, and leave the takers of the world standing in line. Your new contacts will be grateful to you.

Gratitude and giving will lead to your success.

David J. Pollay’s book, Beware of Garbage Trucks!™, and his CD program, Gratitude Is Everything!™, are due out this Fall. Mr. Pollay is the creator of The Law of the Garbage Truck™ (www.bewareofgarbagetrucks.com). He is a syndicated columnist with the North Star Writers Group, creator and host of The Happiness Answer™ DVD, and an internationally sought after speaker. Mr. Pollay is the founder and president of the personal coaching and seminar organization, The Momentum Project (www.themomentumproject.com).

© 2008 David J. Pollay. Distributed by North Star Writers Group. May not be republished without permission.

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