July 2, 2007
Wedding Bells and
Chocolate Pudding
We
went to a wedding today. The bride was the daughter of a couple who have
been our friends for more than 30 years. Looking at this radiant,
drop-dead gorgeous, young woman in her wedding dress, beaming at the
handsome young man who was the love of her life, I couldn’t escape the
vision of chocolate pudding smeared on the cheeks of a four year old
little girl who used to light up rooms with that exact same
sun-breaking-through-clouds smile.
We
had never met the young man who found himself at the center of this
whole operation. In the slide presentation at the reception we did get
to see a photograph of him taken a few years back, in which he was
walking away from the camera, holding a sippy cup in one hand and what
appeared to be a stuffed weasel in the other, clearly enjoying a little
“naked time.”
His parents had obviously discovered that the secret of dealing with
naked little boys is making sure their hands are full.
We
learned a little more from the toast of the best man, who stopped just
short of telling us that the groom’s Animal House name was “Bluto.” Then
there was the toast by the groom’s father, who seemed genuinely amazed
to see his son clothed, much less in a tuxedo.
This is the stuff of weddings. Since the dawn of civilization we humans
have developed elaborate rituals to mark the day when we pack the kids
off to enjoy their very own joint tax return. For instance, in ancient
Roman weddings a thin loaf of bread was broken over the couple's heads,
a tradition reflected today in the shoving of wedding cake up the
bride’s nose.
The Chinese Wedding Album is a feature of many modern Chinese (imagine
that!) weddings. This is an elaborate collection of photographs of the
bride and groom in a variety of different locations and costumes. We can
assume that all of the pictures are numbered for the benefit of people
who can’t pronounce the captions.
In
the Hindu wedding tradition, a turnip represents fulfillment and a happy
marriage, while around here the turnip signifies a beef pasty.
Which brings us to the wedding feast. I’m pretty sure that this has been
around since Oog cracked a saber tooth tiger on the head and barbecued
it for his daughter Oogella’s wedding. And I wouldn’t be one bit
surprised to learn that Oog’s brother-in-law got into a little too much
grog and passed out on the pile of gift-wrapped stoneware (made from
real… never mind).
Of
course one of the most familiar and universal wedding customs is music
at the reception, provided by either a live band or a DJ. In either
case, in addition to playing “The Bunny Hop” and “Mony Mony,” it is the
entertainer’s job to keep the party going and to make sure that the
couple perform important rituals like the garter exchange, in which the
wedding party at large gets a good view of the bride’s underpants.
In
New Testament times the wedding celebration lasted a full seven days.
Just imagine how much material those Judean DJs must have had to come up
with!
In
the end, though, I think that the cakes, the garters, the Bunny Hop and
the brother-in-law sleeping it off among the monogrammed chafing dishes
are all just nature’s way of helping us parents work through the
realization that, when it comes to our kids, we can’t keep pudding on
their faces and stuffed weasels in their hands forever.
They have to move on to pudding and stuffed weasels of their own.
A special thank you to
Dave Barry for reminding me at the National Society of Newspaper
Columnists conference last week that the funniest word in the English
language is “weasel.”
© 2007, Michael Ball
© 2007 Michael Ball.
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