April 16, 2007
Long Life is Good; Good
Life is Better
I used to do it every time I went to an art museum. I would
view a painting that I liked, and then I would head for the wall
directly to the right of it. Now I was careful not to disturb anyone’s
view on my approach, so I would make a big swing to the right and then
shimmy up the wall until I reached the little metal plaque next to the
painting.
Sure, I was
interested in the name of the painting, who painted it and the year in
which it was completed. But I mostly wanted to know one thing. I wanted
to know how long the artist lived. I was always relieved and happy when
I saw that the artist had lived a long life, and I was disappointed when
I saw it had been a short one. For as long as I can remember, I thought
a good life was a long life. Positive Psychology helped change my
thinking.
Psychologists Martin
Seligman and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi co-founded Positive Psychology when
Seligman was president of the American Psychological Association in
1998. Seligman was celebrated for his research on “learned helplessness”
and “learned optimism,” while Csikszentmihalyi was best known for his
research on “flow,” and for his best-selling book by the same name. Both
men set psychology on a course to discover what made people happy and
thrive in life. They wanted to know what made up the “good life.”
The results of
countless research studies that followed the launch of Positive
Psychology led Seligman to conclude that there were three approaches to
the good life. And they were all important. When you savor the present,
are grateful for the past, and are hopeful for the future, you are
experiencing positive emotion, the first component of happiness. When
you do what you do best, when you use your signature strengths in your
life’s work, you are engaged. This is the second contributor to
happiness. And when you are involved in activities that are beyond your
self-interest – activities that you believe matter to the world – you
are experiencing the third and final component of the good life. Your
life is full of meaning.
While genetics do
play a role in affecting our happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky’s research has
demonstrated that as much as 50 percent of our happiness is within our
direct control. The headline here is that the good life is possible.
It’s within our grasp, and it is not measured only by the number of
years we live.
My little girls
helped me learn this lesson last year. Dawn and I took Eliana and Ariela,
three and two at the time, to a museum of butterflies in Key West.
When we entered the
museum through a special pressurized entrance, we were immediately
surrounded by thousands of butterflies, all flapping their multi-colored
wings. My girls were thrilled! I turned to our museum guide and asked,
“How long do butterflies live?”
She said, “About 10
days.”
I thought to myself,
“Ten days - what do you do in 10 days?” So I blurted out, “What do they
do in ten days?” And she stopped, paused, and said, “They make the world
a more beautiful place.”
Every day I now ask
myself, “How am I making the world a more beautiful place?” A long life
is good; a good life is better.
© 2007 David J. Pollay.
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