David J.
Pollay
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August 25, 2008
Ask for Help and Keep
Going to Achieve Your Dreams
Last year I returned to Yale for my 20th college reunion. And like what
happens to most people who attend reunions, I thought about my life
then, and now.
See, I am grateful for my life. I love my wife. I adore my girls. I
cherish my parents. I have great friends. My health is good. I enjoy
where I live. I love what I do for a living. My life is not perfect, but
it is good.
So
as I stood on the Yale campus with my family, I thought about the lesson
I had learned when I was a first-semester freshman: When things don’t go
your way, ask for help and keep going.
A very disappointing
week
I
learned that lesson after one of the most disappointing weeks of my
life. I was a young kid from Wisconsin – away from home for the first
time – and I was trying to make it through my first semester at Yale. I
wanted to pack my bags and head home.
I remember the beginning of that week: I was sitting in the
front row of a large auditorium with about 400 students sitting on the
main floor, and another 100 sitting in the balcony. As I got up to hand
in my economics mid-term exam, I heard a “Whoaaaaa.” Hundreds of
students were looking up at me in awe. I had just completed a four-hour
exam in less than 40 minutes. People were blown away at how smart I must
have been to have finished so fast. And little did they know that two
days later my Economics professor handed back my exam and said, “David,
you scored a six out of 100. That’s not very good.”
And that was just the beginning of my week. The next day I received my
grade on my first astronomy paper. I had better news to report. I upped
my performance from an “F” in economics to a “D+” in astronomy.
And then my bad week continued on the football field. My parents and
little brother were coming from Milwaukee to New Haven to watch me play
football. And during practice the day before they arrived, I made one
wrong turn and tore my hamstring. My family came to the game, but only
to see me standing on the sidelines with crutches, instead of running
with a football.
Finally, the week came to an end with my new girlfriend telling me,
“David, I’m ‘pre-engaged’ to be married.” Now I didn’t know what
“pre-engaged” meant, but I knew it couldn’t be good. And it wasn’t.
All this happened in one week. And all I wanted to do was quit and head
back to Wisconsin. But I didn’t.
Ask for help
I
reached out for help. I talked to my parents. I called my friends. I
asked for their support, and they gave it to me. When I felt like a
failure, they helped me regain my confidence.
I
then paid visits to my professors. I asked for their help, and they gave
it to me. I followed their advice: I moved up a few rows in class, and I
did my homework.
And while it didn’t work out with my girlfriend, and I never became a
football star in college, I did turn my grades around. I eventually
majored in economics. And I even graduated with the honor of carrying
our college banner at graduation.
Now it’s 21 years later and I am grateful that I learned to ask for help
when I just wanted to quit and go home.
Live your best life possible: Ask for help when you need it, and keep
going to achieve your dreams.
David J. Pollay’s book,
Beware of Garbage Trucks!™, and his
CD program, Gratitude Is Everything!™, are due out this Fall. Mr. Pollay
is the creator of The Law of the
Garbage Truck™ (www.bewareofgarbagetrucks.com).
He is a syndicated columnist with the
North Star Writers Group,
creator and host of The
Happiness Answer™ DVD, and an
internationally sought after speaker. Mr. Pollay is the
founder and president of the personal coaching and seminar organization,
The Momentum Project (www.themomentumproject.com).
© 2008
David J. Pollay. Distributed by North Star Writers Group. May not be
republished without permission.
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