Cindy
Droog
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April 14, 2008
New Mom, New Job – Perfect Match or Management Horror Show?
I’ve been promoted and
I’m scared to death.
It’s not that I haven’t
supervised people before. I have. I’m not afraid to work hard to help
others realize their potential. In fact, I love it. Giving direction and
advice and mentoring? All things I’ve enjoyed in the past. I’m also not
afraid to do the difficult things, like fire someone. Unfortunately,
I’ve done that, too.
But I have done none of
those things since having my kids. I’m different now, and my work style
is different, too. Will being a manager fit the new me?
For one thing, I have
managed to let go of my perfectionism. Before having kids, I could spend
hours, even days, writing one brochure. One time, a 12-page web site
took me nearly a month to perfect. It was for a broker of antique
wartime weapons. And it wasn’t because I wanted my client to be happy so
he wouldn’t shoot me.
Today, I don’t have
time for that kind of stress. I’d crank that bad boy out in a day;
remind myself that 94 percent is technically still an “A” grade; and
move on. To help with my occasional relapses, I even keep a printout of
a great blog post I once read in my top desk drawer. It’s called
“Perfectionists are Losers.”
Amen!
Now that I’m not such a
stickler with my own work, how can I be with everyone else’s? I probably
won’t, and we’ll see if that flies.
Second, my tolerance
for workplace drama has significantly declined. Before, when I was
copied on e-mails about someone’s lack of performance, and then on the
reply, and then on the rebuttal, and then on the countercharge, and then
on the final defense, I got a secret satisfaction from it.
I’d read the e-mails
the second they showed up in my inbox. I reveled in the wonder of what
might be said next.
Apparently, I had a lot
of time on my hands.
Today, I file these
e-mails in some folder, and at the end of the day, I open only the most
recent. Then, I ask myself: “Do I really need to do anything here?” If
the answer is “no,” I sigh in relief, and go back to work. If the answer
is “yes,” I make a few phone calls. Then sigh in relief. Then go back to
work.
I fix it if I can,
ignore it if I can’t. Just like that broken zipper on my son’s spring
coat. Can’t fix it. So I pretend it’s fine and throw a zipped vest under
it. Problem solved. Call it lazy. I call it efficient genius.
I am worried that now,
people are going to expect more involvement. They’ll want my two cents.
I guess I’ll start by offering one cent. But I sincerely hope to never
work my way up to two.
Finally, the “old me”
happily picked up the slack for others. For example, I was very
understanding when a former employee was devastated by her long-time
roommate’s profession of lesbianism. She wanted to take a few days off
in the middle of a large campaign, and I said yes. Seriously.
And I worked about 25
extra hours that week in her stead.
Today, I need every
hour at home that I can get. I’d be more likely to tell that same person
to get over it. That last year, I found out I was pregnant, discovered
that my oldest son had asthma and allergies so we had to get rid of our
beloved dog, and learned that my father had cancer. All in the same day.
Know what I did the
next day? I went to work. So I guess I’ll see you tomorrow – at 8 a.m.
sharp!
I don’t think I’m
harsher these days. In fact, I’m mushier than ever. I just a have new
definition of what a disaster is. What work-life balance is. And what
moving up the corporate ladder – with joy and without regret – can mean.
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