Nathaniel
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October 29, 2007
I Wanted to Be a Cow,
But I’m Stuck Being a Writer
When I was four, I wanted to be a cow when I grew up. I guess I just
really liked cows. Now, I prefer to eat them.
A
few years later, I wanted to be a veterinarian, until I was told that
every veterinarian has to spend something like half a century in
college. After that, I wanted to be in the Air Force, because who
wouldn’t want to fly a plane capable of blowing up Rhode Island? Soon
after that, I wanted to be an orchestra conductor, until I realized that
I was much too lazy.
So now I’m a writer.
The image of sitting in coffee shops with a laptop, drinking black
coffee and smoking cigarettes is quite seductive. Writers have it made.
But then my wife said that cigarettes were bad for me, and I wasn’t sure
if I wanted to be a writer anymore. Since then, I’ve become a bit more
thoughtful, and consequently, somewhat disillusioned.
The more I think about it, the more I realize that writers may be one of
the most obnoxious groups of people in existence. There are only two
reasons to be friends with one: a) He constantly says interesting, witty
things, such as “another round on me”; or b) he is smoking/drinking
himself to death, and you are under the delusion that some healthy
social interaction might discourage another writer-suicide.
I
seem to have a habit of imagining my favorite writers in their 60s with
a thick head of hair, at which point they still go fishing, are
incredibly charming, and have houses on Puget Sound, Lake Tahoe and the
Mediterranean.
Unfortunately, the truth is that any writer worth his salt has more
divorces to his name than houses. Take Hemingway, for example. He’s my
favorite author, and I have always tried to think of him as such a cool
guy – like a James Bond who writes books. He loved fishing, drinking,
traveling, drinking, bull-fighting, writing and the occasional drink.
But then again, he was divorced something like five times, was severely
depressed for a good portion of his life, and killed himself with a
shotgun when he was 62.
The thing about writers is that we’re always offering up our opinions on
things, whether you ask us or not. “Did I like ‘Casablanca’? Well, yes,
it was a compelling movie, but I happen to think that its twisted idea
of love being so utterly different, even opposed to respect and
commitment, well . . . let me put it this way. If you ask me, I think
‘Casablanca’ is enormously responsible for the lack of commitment in
relationships even today. ‘Casablanca’ is a prime example of how
Hollywood is destroying American culture. Of course, that’s just my
opinion, but you see what I mean.”
And this is very possibly what I’ll say to you if you ask me about
“Casablanca”.
But as I said, that’s why we make such lousy friends. Up until the point
that we do ourselves in with whatever firearm or chemicals we can get
our hands on, we’re doing you in with secondhand smoke, and what’s even
more suffocating, our opinions. Writers spend so much of their lives
convinced of their own importance that when they wake up one day and
realize that they don’t care about anyone but themselves, and that, if
they’re lucky, people care about their writing, but certainly not them,
they genuinely hate the world. And then we pout, sometimes so fiercely
it ends in suicide.
My wife tells me I pout, which has both positive and negative
implications. It’s good, because it means I’m becoming an actual writer.
But it’s also bad, because it means I’m becoming an actual writer.
It is a serious issue, I think, and perhaps the best advice I can give
myself and others like me is to understand that I am, first and
foremost, a husband, a brother, a friend, and hopefully, before too
long, a father.
For the time being, I write because I like it, because it makes me feel
important, and because then I can tell people I’m a writer. We always
think of the lucky ones as those who can pay their bills doing something
they purportedly love. But we might all be luckier still if we could
stop defining ourselves by how we pay the bills and start
defining ourselves by why.
Perhaps all professions have their psychological pitfalls, but writing
seems to have one of the most severe. Quite frankly, those writers who
ended up going off the deep end would have fared a lot better following
their four-year-old dream of becoming a cow.
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